The Library
of Quiet Guidance.
The workbooks and guides we trust most for planning your own end of life — most of them free. Read and reflect here; when you're ready to do the work, Vera walks you through it.
Workbooks & guides we trust
The Conversation Project
A free Conversation Starter Guide from the Institute for Healthcare Improvement — for getting your own wishes clear, then talking them through with the people you love. The gentlest doorway in.
theconversationproject.org north_east Book · the warm oneA Beginner's Guide to the End
By BJ Miller, a palliative-care physician, and Shoshana Berger. The warmest, most complete practical guide to planning your own death — the paperwork, the system, and the questions you're afraid to ask. It reads like a steady friend.
Miller & Berger · Simon & Schuster north_east The documentFive Wishes
A values-first advance directive in plain language, legal in 46 states and DC (per the American Bar Association) and available in 32 languages. The document you complete and share with the people who will speak for you.
Aging with Dignity · fivewishes.org north_east For doulas · the lineageGoing With Grace
Alua Arthur — death doula, attorney, and founder — built an end-of-life plan and a doula training rooted in a person's whole humanity. If this work is calling you, doing her own plan first roots your practice.
Alua Arthur · goingwithgrace.com north_eastThese belong to their creators, not to us. We gather them because they are the best places to begin — and pointing you to the best, ours or not, is the whole point.
When you're ready to actually do it — Vera walks with you.
A workbook is a blank page. Vera is a conversation — she asks the questions your family can't, at your pace, and turns your answers into a plan they can actually follow.
More, gathered at Quality Death.
Our companion practice keeps the same resources plus guides for doulas, palliative-versus-hospice, and end-of-life companionship — the same honesty, a different doorway.